Mike Jones – The Victim’s Victim

The Mike Jones reading was a sad affair.

He began by telling us that he wrote the book because he was a victim and that all the gays in the audience were victims too. Yes, we’re all victims of the hatred spewed forth by the Ted Haggard’s of this world. Then he proceeded to read a brief bit about his initial meeting with Ted before explaining that Ted is also a victim just not as big a victim as Mike Jones. Cheez-its! In the first 15 minutes I heard the word victim so many times I felt I was being brainwashed. VICTIM = Mike Jones. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Next he read a bit about his mother and her death and he began to weep. This cheap ploy for sympathy didn’t sit well with my group of friends as the eyes started rolling, claws came out and catty remarks were being whispered among us. But we were alone.

I don’t know where this crowd came from but I believe they may have been trucked in by Mr. Jones’ publicist. Not one of them seemed to have a mind of their own and the whole thing turned into a love fest. Like Mike Jones was gay Jesus.

At one point Mike mentioned that he wanted to make sure his story broke before the elections because he felt that it would help defeat the anti-gay measures on the Colorado ballot. Yet he failed to mention that he voted for George Bush in the last election. I had intended to ask more about this but by the time the opportunity arose, I no longer cared. I’d had more than enough of his whining. I’d also had enough of the crowd that would no doubt have hung me out to dry if I’d raised the question.

I went to this reading to thank Mike Jones for his bravery in exposing hypocrisy in the pulpit. I went to commend him on his timing, as I believe his outing of Ted Haggard played a role in the outcome of the elections. But none of that mattered to Mike; he was there to talk about Mike Jones, the victim, whose life is now so very pitiful. He was there to talk about how the gay community abandoned him in his time of need. He was there to whine and cry and wonder why he doesn’t get the same media coverage as Paris Hilton. He was there to have his ego stroked. Oh…and he was there to tell us how he’d love to have a boyfriend.

That’s when I left.

Afterward, while discussing this with my friends, we concluded Mike Jones is his own victim. He chose this line of work and he chose to accept this client. That the client turned out to be a self-loathing preacher of hate does not make Mike Jones a victim. That he outed the client and therefore had to deal with the subsequent series of events made him a victim…of his own actions.

What he did was noble, how he represents it is not.

9 responses to “Mike Jones – The Victim’s Victim

  1. Oh rodger… Well said, my friend. You voiced the sentiments that have been rolling around my thick skull for awhile now in regards to MJ. It’s why I have been reticent to even thumb through his book or attend any MJ love ins. Apparently, he has enough love of self to last a few lifetimes (superficial love that is). The victim role is lucrative I guess, and the nobility of his action of outing Ted cemented that earning potential quite nicely.
    I gave money to him when all this came out, and am still glad I helped him a bit through that initial hardship. It was extremely gratifying to watch a pulpit bully like Haggart go down (hehe). I wasn’t judgemental of his profession then or now, but I do understand how someone in that line of work can label themselves victim; It helps cope with the reality of their bad decision making by projecting their guilt and culpability onto others. The crocodile tears are as convincing as the moans of a porn star upon orgasm, cameras rolling, cash register ringing. Cha-fucking-ching. Love this post, thank you!

  2. you know, he’s been my hero for outing this asshat. i love him for it. i guess as heroes often are, he is deeply flawed. he did a grand thing and the timing was, as you said, perfect, and i believe it did influence the election. but i can’t get over the fact of him voting for george bush. and i am sad to hear that he truly is a sad and tragic figure with a miserable life of his own making.

    therapy. it works. there’s a sentence in the AA big book that’s probably the single greatest statement of hope in that entire 500+ page volume: “so our problems, we think, are basically of our own making.” yes. and so the solution is within me and does not depend upon exterior circumstances or other people, over whom i have no control anyway. acceptance of personal responsibility is critical to a happy life. poor mike. poor you having to sit through it.

  3. Tater – I skimmed the book while listening to him and it read like a cheap novel. He is terribly self-absorbed.

    Lynette – I still admire what he did even though I don’t admire him. He really does need therapy. I may too as I didn’t mind sitting through the reading. I love a good train wreck as do my friends.

  4. Lynette said it so much more nicely than I did, and with so much more tact. Wish I had some of her balanced wisdom…

  5. Don’t we all Tater…don’t we all!

  6. I is back my friend! Yippee…I think. I think I may have been getting use to that hiatus from blogging and merely focusing on travel and friends.

  7. i shudder at the Victim mentality of anyone. it is so seductive but ultimately blights.
    believing in the victim mentality is not compatible with the belief my life is what I can make of it; I am my own making.
    i am glad you walked out.

  8. Well said. I also very much agree with Spo’s comment. If you want to get on my bad side, tell me that I’m a victim. Not interested.
    But he still did a good thing. Props for that, but I don’t want to be his friend.

  9. Much to my embarrassment at admitting it, I bought the book this weekend… and, while I must admit my guilty pleasure in reading it, he really, really paints a picture of himself that is unrealistic.

    Victim? I think not…

    I do think what he did was a good thing, outing Haggard… however, I can NOT get past the fact that he introduced him to crystal meth. I mean, he made it possible for Haggard to score his first bag of meth… and I have a REAL problem with that… Has he done this for others?

    And have you SEEN the picture on the inside back flap of the jacket?? Good grief…

    Nevertheless, I continue to read…

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